05 April, 2012

WHY A WIFE ABBANDS HIM AFTER BEING SOBER?

Its a story of a migrated man and a capital spouce both were well educated ,well disciplined.
but cultures were different though married in a cultured way blessed with two kids.
some how the man started consuming alcohol, they both are equally in an offensive goal,after a long struggle the men is in recovery maintains sobriety, all of sudden he lost his job, he cant able to do hardwork due to his recovery, financial problems started . but the men had maintained his sobriety, when he was an achlolic he used to maintain all the amenities towards the family, but after the lose of job , he could not able to maintain all needs to wards the family. though the well educated wife being financially sound and socially maintains cared people
but due to ego backgrounder by their own parents she started dominating him with broken hearted wordings
she abused him regurely , in the family, near the job place and socially , but  being well educated medical graduate she cant shared a love to wards her husband and she cant able to identify that alcoholism is a  diseases, so called ALCOHOL DEPENDENCY SYNDROME. She used to abuse him in front of society , family members , and his job colleges keeping in mind that what she was faced during the husbands past life.
she filed the legal action against him which are all un proveable except alcoholism , man handled him with the family members , ill treated in the society  and finally with the help/support/or encouragement of the family members she abbanded him and left to her parents home town,
but the country men is such a stubban that he has been maintaining his sober recovery , hence i request the families of the alcoholic  be patience to wards them treat them as a patient and share the love and support them for the recovery , if not what is the faith the country men is facing the lonely ness  which may lead to devorce and the kids may miss the love of their beloved dad. its only an sharing to aware the families to beware of the faith of the country men the characters are only imaginary if its hearts any body i will pleased to appolize . thanks

WHY A HUSBAND ABBANDS WIFE ITS A SYNDROM?

The reason that Wife Abandonment Syndrome is so traumatic is that the change in the husband's behavior is dramatic, sudden and unexplained. or the harassment faced by her spouse/parents/legal ties?

In order to justify his decision not to include his wife in the process that led to the end of the marriage, he needs to come up with a compelling explanation for his actions. That explanation often has little to do with reality, causing the bewildered wife, who had previously trusted her husband's word, to wrack her brains trying to make sense out of something that is inherently nonsensical.

The type of man who abandons often appears to be unusually moral and trustworthy, making it even harder for the wife to accept that his words are empty justifications. The most important first step in healing for a woman in this situation is the realization that her husband is not the man she thought she knew and that he never was.
Ten reasons of Wife Abandonment Syndrome

1. Prior to the separation, the husband had seemed to be an attentive, engaged spouse, looked upon by his wife as honest and trustworthy.

2. The husband had never indicated that he was unhappy in the marriage or thinking of leaving, and the wife believed herself to be in a secure relationship.

3. By the time he reveals his feelings to his wife, the end of the marriage is already a fait accompli and the husband moves out quickly.

4. The husband typically blurts out the news that the marriage is over "out-of-the-blue" in the middle of a mundane domestic conversation.

5. Reasons given for his decision are nonsensical, exaggerated, trivial or fraudulent.

6. The husband’s behavior changes radically, feeling to his wife that he has become a cruel and vindictive stranger.

7. The husband exhibits no remorse; rather, anger is directed toward his wife and he may describe himself as the victim.

8. IN most cases wife attitude and dependency to wards her husbands seeks less rather then parents.

9. The husband makes no attempt to help his wife, either financially or emotionally, as if all positive regard for her has been extinguished. but he feels for his kids future rather his spouce.

10. Systematically devaluing the marriage, the husband redefines what had previously been an agreed-upon view of the couple's joint history.


Warning Signs for Married Women of Possible  (even if your husband has not talked about being unhappy in the marriage/maximum involvement of her parents/supporters in their personal life)

1. Has he had affairs in the past or left previous relationships in a similar way, even if you were the one for whom he left his last wife. That's the strongest predictor that he has what it takes to do that again.

2. Does he seem uncharacteristically unhappy with his life, even if his complaints are not related to the marriage. It's a sign that he may be re-thinking his life.

3. Do you notice a personality change? Does he just not seem himself? Is he withdrawn or suddenly irritable? Is he snapping at the children or not wanting to participate in family activities?

4. Are his habits changing - suddenly going to the gym, buying flashier clothes, dying his hair, getting a tattoo, buying an expensive car?

5. Do his values seem to be in flux? Is he adopting ideas that he used to belittle or belittling things he used to value? Is he espousing new beliefs that surprise you?

6. Is he taking "business" trips or disappearing for periods of time and the reasons given just don't seem to make sense?

7. Has he started to frequently mention a woman at work?

8. Does he work in a career in which he is in a position of power or authority, such as a professor, pastor, business executive or chaplain, where younger women may look up to him?

IMPORTANT SIGNS OF UR RELATIONSHIP IS OVER WITH UR PARTNER

MR YC
MR .KBC
MS. chary
mr.chary

Every relationship has its own set of problems. It all depends on how many and how much of it you can handle before it brings your relationship into a downfall. Here are some of the signs that may cause you to think your relationship is about to end.

1. Little Or No Communication: If you are sitting at candle lit dinner table and you cant think of anything to say to each other, you might find yourselves splitting up. Communication is a must have in relationships. If you are not communicating with your partner, things might have went dead for your relationship
2. No Time For You: When your partner acts like he doesn't have time for you, you might want to think about leaving him or her.
3. Comes Home Late: This can be excusable if you are really working hard or have family emergencies, but if you find your partner coming home late on a daily routine, there is a chance he or she isn't being faithful.
4. Being Sneaky: Whether its erasing text messages or having private phone calls they don't want you to know about, it is sneaky and more than likely they are hiding something from you.
5. Arguing/Fighting: You are constantly fighting with each other or arguing about the same problems over and over with no end or resolution.
6. Putting You Down: When your partner is always complaining about what you look like or saying things that don't help your self esteem or confidence in your relationship, this is a put down.
7. Parents involvement: no other person except spouce and he must solve the problem, but just like kbc
and mrs kbc with the group of villegers must not involve leave them alone and let them the problem solved or help them other then breaking the love relationship its my own story i and she are the sufferers more probebly my little kids miss a lot and the impact will be with in the minds in these cyberdays so beware of mr kbc.
TRISH/RISH
8. Cant Stand To Be Around Them: If you are happy and all of a sudden your partner walks in the room and you have a frown on your face, something is wrong.
10. They Have Cheated: If your partner has cheated on you in the past, you have little belief in him or her and you will constantly think (and may be) they are cheating on you again.
These are some of the most common signs of a troubled relationship. The first thing to do is realize your relationship has these problems so that you can address them accordingly.

04 April, 2012

IMPORTANT TIPS FOR HEALTHY LOVE RELATIONS


The following tips may assist you with enhancing the love relationships in your life.
1. Create Special Time - to connect with your spouse or partner, to share thoughts of appreciation through words, actions or deeds.

2. Listening - can be a wonderful gift to your loved one – don’t forget to be attentive and present when interacting with that special person.

3. Schedule Date Night - each week, so that you and your special love have uninterrupted time to stay connected. You can have a date on the town or at home.

4. Take Responsibility - for your feelings and actions by speaking in "I" terms, don’t play the blame game.

5. When you are angry - take a Time Out such as a deep breath, counting to ten or taking a walk. These strategies will help you avoid hurting each other emotionally throughharsh words or physically through hitting, punching or shoving. Many couples face the risks and pains of intimate partner violence.

6. Communicate - your love, concerns and feelings on a regular basis. You can do this during the day through a special two minute phone call, by taking a walk in the evening, watching the sunrise or sunset, or leaving a love note in a special place.

7. Find a hobby - that you can share together. Many people enjoy cooking, gardening, walking, jogging, reading, playing board games, etc.

8. Attend to each other’s - needs for intimacy and connection. Find ways to remember your days of early dating, and give your spouse or partner that special positive energy.

9. It takes two - to tango, so be willing to lead and follow.

10. Remember to -incorporate three important phrases in your daily interactions: "I’m sorry", "thank you" and "I love you."

A healthy love relationship doesn’t just happen – you have to work at it. Relationships do change (and they definitely will) and when they do you need to be aware of how they are changing and adapt to those changes.
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03 April, 2012

The Art Of Flirting - The Approach


Flirting is the way most people determine whether or not a member of the opposite sex is interested in them. Following is a quick outline on how you should go about the complex, sometimes fun, sometimes not so fun, task of flirting. It all beings with your approach.
The Approach
One person approaches the other. They move into closer physical proximity. This much is clear: NO approach equals NO possibility of initiating contact. You must approach!
Example: A woman sits down next to a man in a coffee shop, or a man stands near a woman in a dance club. This is the first step. Once you approach, you begin looking for the signs.

the art of fliriting - Body Language


Over a period of time, a couple that has begun to talk may also begin to orient themselves physically to one another, to turn toward one another until, if all is goes well, they are fully facing one another. This is your goal.






This step can take minutes or hours . . . or weeks or months . . . to achieve. Yet, without this physical reorientation toward one another, not very much can ever happen, so give up on people who turn their back toward you for long periods of time! But if they don’t…

the art of flirting - The Signs


The person who has been approached will always signal the other’s presence in some way…a sign. This signal is not like a train whistle, however, more a subtle body language which you can learn to recognize. For example, he or she simply may look up, move over to make room, nod slightly, or signal with a glancing eye contact.



A display of total obliviousness to the one who is approaching generally indicates lack of interest altogether. Don’t be discouraged. But if the one you approached shows absolutely no interest, then it’s time to re-group and try again. But let’s say the approach works. You have your positive acknowledgement, now what? Time to talk

the art of flirting - Verbal Exchange


The two people may then engage in a mild verbal exchange about impersonal, unimportant matters such as the weather or the scene around them. The key word here is MILD.


This is the classic place for the clever "line," but cleverness is not required. At this point, a verbal exchange is not for the purpose of sharing valuable insights about life or determining philosophical compatibility. It is just a vehicle to further the developing contact.


Examples: Verbal overtures might include anything from "please pass the pickles" to "your looking great tonight", to "have you seen the waitress?". Without some form of verbal response, it is highly unlikely that the next step will occur. Let’s say all is going as planned. Time for body language.

THE ART OF FLRTING - Touching


The woman or the man (most often the woman) touches the other in a light, fleeting way. Examples: A couple might accidentally brush their hands against one another while reaching for a drink, or the woman might pat the man on the arm in the middle of a shared joke. The exchange of very subtle, almost glancing touches may continue for some while, and if all goes well, can escalate into the casual affections shown by couples who are dating. If you’ve reached this point, then flirting has now become the beginning of a relationship. The Art of Flirting should always end with the beginning of a relationship. Now get out there and flirt.
The Art of Flirting is really the Art of making first contact. You only have one shot at making a great first impression. By following some of the guidelines we’ve established in this article, you should now be equipped to locate, approach, and ascertain whether or not your subtle flirting has opened the doors to a new and exciting relationship.