28 February, 2012

BIRTH OF FIRST LOVE

 What is it? How do you express it, much less define it? The universal theory of love, relationships, and lust have been on the minds of people since the beginning of time. How do you explain it?  Dickinson, a poet of the 19TH century, described love as "An anterior to life". Many theorists and researchers, as well as the common BOY or GIRL, have their own definition of love. Explanations, experiments, and all types of opinions have been offered on over and why.
According to  a theorist from the mid-twentieth century, early adulthood (ages 19-35) is a time of intimacy vs. isolation. Erikson argues that during the later years of adolescence and early adulthood, individuals must develop the ability to form deep, intimate relationships with other people. This theory is not directed specifically toward sexual intimacy, but toward forming long-lasting emotional bonds with another person. Erikson also said that people that do not form these long-lasting relationships will live their lives in loneliness or isolation.
No matter what one is looking for, there are typically things in a relationship that are challenging. Love does not come easy, it takes a significant amount of work. Whether it is love at first sight, love after two months or ten years, there are thousands of ways that people fall in love. Although people are trying to explain, predict, and even control love, it seems love finds a way to take over our lives and no matter what, it will always exist.
There are scientific ways to define love, but there are also society's stereotypes of the way things should be. For instance, for some people love is happiness, and for some love is misery, and sometimes love is both. But for many young adults, love brings happiness, companionship, and togetherness. It isn't always fun, and love doesn't always have a happy ending, but it all seems to be for the best. For many young adults in this day in age, love is the building block for the rest of their lives.

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